Know your local customs

by Nicole Feenstra

Have you ever felt like a fish out of water when travelling abroad?

Every country has its own quirks, local customs and particular nicities. Knowing some of the etiquette and personality of the culture you're about to explore can definately make your trip more comfortable and a lot more enjoyable.


When in Spain
- Dress to impress! In Spain, one's appearance is a reflection of self-respect.
- Keep your accomplishments to yourself. Flaunting and showing-off are frowned upon.
- Greet the eldest first when meeting others, and shake hands with all those you meet, including children. When a stronger relationship is formed, hugs and kisses on the cheeks (from left to right) become more acceptable.
- Unexpected Thing to Expect: In Spain, it is completely acceptable to stare at anyone, anytime, anywhere. While Americans may consider this to be "awkward," the idea of something being "awkward" doesn't exist in most of Europe-so instead of feeling strange about it, feel free to stare right back!

When in Ireland
- When interacting with the Irish, personal space is important to keep in mind. As a sign of respect, try to remain an arm's length away, and if you are walking by someone and get too close, make sure to apologize!
- Avoiding eye contact makes you seem untrustworthy, and speaking too loudly is regarded as rude and disrespectful.
- Avoid boasting in order to gain respect.
- Unexpected Thing to Expect: Religion and politics are two very delicate subjects in Ireland. If a local brings up these topics, it is okay to discuss them, but be prepared for strong opinions-the Irish love to debate!

When in France
- When first meeting someone always begin with "Bonjour". It is considered impolite to start with a question or comment.
- To many French citizens, failing to even attempt to speak their language is considered rude. Utilize a phrase book, and if all else fails, politely ask if they speak English: "Parlez-vous Anglais?
- Learn the difference between informal ("tu") and formal ("vous") ways to address someone. Also, always begin by addressing individuals by their title and surname, for example "Madame Chabert" or "Monsieur Agnes." "Mademoiselle" is reserved for unmarried young women or girls.
- Unexpected Thing to Expect: When eating, always use utensils, even in fast-food restaurants. If you have been invited to a dinner party, wait for your host to put their napkin on their lap and invite you to dine.

When in Italy
- Outer - and inner - appearance is very important to how you are received by Italians. Dress well and exude a quiet confidence.
- In social situations, Italians are well known for their open, bold, passionate and vivacious communicative style, but tone it down for more formal occasions.
- Address others using "Signore" or "Signora" followed by the family name.
- Food is an integral part of the Italian culture, so your actions during meal times are very important! If invited for dinner, follow the host's actions. For example, don't sit and unfold your napkin before the host. Additionally, make sure your hands are always visible and avoid using your fingers when eating.
- Unexpected Thing to Expect: Italian shops hate making change. Carry exact change and you'll avoid a lot of frustration.

When in Greece
- Family is extremely important to Greeks, so the way you act with one family member will – to them – represent how you feel about the entire family. If you ever have a conflict with someone, be sure to discuss it with the individual in a polite, low-key way.
- Greeks are very open and emotional in their speech and body language, so it is important to know the cultural variations in body language. For example, "yes" is signaled by a slight nod of the head downwards, and "no" is signaled by a small bob of the head upwards.
- Unexpected Thing to Expect: When invited to an event, proper etiquette in Greece is to arrive at least half an hour after the proposed start time. If dining is involved, dinner is often accompanied by dancing, and getting up to dance yourself is a sign of good manners. Be sure to bring a small gift and be open to sharing your food!

When in China
- It is polite to address the eldest member in the group first. Using a lack of expression and a gentle handshake when meeting someone conveys respect, rather than a firm handshake or affectionate embrace with little restraint of emotion.
- Gift-giving is a sign of respect and gratitude. Small gifts express courtesy and should be given if you are invited into someone's home or business. You should expect the recipient to refuse a few times, but keep insisting and eventually they will accept.
- Unexpected Thing to Expect: What Americans may perceive to be rude behavior can actually be acceptable in Chinese culture. For example, talking with your mouth full when eating is perfectly acceptable in China, and burping is actually considered to be a sign of gratitude and satisfaction.